1.4.1: Simple is Complex
a) From the therapy room
Too Many Answers, Not the Right One
She sits in front of me, frustration written all over her face. For the second time, she’s failed an important test. “I know the book inside and out. I’ve never worked this hard. I read everything. But it just seems I can’t give them the answers they want. That has to be the problem, because otherwise… I have no idea.”
Her classmates passed long ago. She could tutor them if she wanted to. And yet… She pauses, needing a moment to sit with the weight of it before we continue. Sharing her story with someone who truly understands is a relief. But the reality remains: if she wants to pass, she’ll have to learn to jump through the hoops, to keep things as simple as they seem to everyone else.
But that goes against everything in her. She’s allergic to it. Where others memorize, she sees layers of possibilities and connections that they don’t even think to question. “This is going to be a real challenge,” she says. And she’s right.
b) About simple being complex
c) Poll
Do seemingly simple, everyday tasks—like cooking, packing, or just leaving the house—sometimes take longer or feel harder to finish than they should?
- Sometimes I get stuck making decisions or find myself overthinking, which can slow me down. (67%, 2 Votes)
- Yes, straightforward tasks often take me longer or feel harder to complete than they seem to for others. (33%, 1 Votes)
- I don’t really notice any difference in how I handle simple tasks compared to most people. (0%, 0 Votes)
Total Voters: 3
d) Exercise
Let’s acknowledge it: your brain works differently. And that’s okay. Some things that seem simple to others might feel complex to you. Instead of resisting that, try offering yourself a little kindness. It can make all the difference. Ask yourself: What in your life needs that gentleness right now? What part of you deserves to hear: “Hey, it’s okay. I’ll give you more time to grow. This is normal for you, it’s just part of who you are. And that’s perfectly fine.”